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Swamimalai_Murugan_TempleGender woman

Was: a victim
City: Temple/Swamimalai
Was wearing Chudithar/Salwar Kameez with dupatta
Reaction: Helpless, Passively Endured

Perpetrator was a Stranger and aged 30-40

Incident was : One time

I have been oscillating between wanting to share my experience here and choosing to bury it. And then I just decided to go ahead because of the the circumstances in which the incident happened. Our family makes a trip to Swamimalai (near Kumbakonam) every year for Abhishekam and prayers. Though I am not exactly religious, I liked the trips because I got to meet my cousins and could laze around as the trips almost always happened during summer breaks. The temple tends to be crowded on certain days that are considered auspicious. On such auspicious days, weddings also happen in the temple premises so the place gets pretty crowded. It was on one such a day that the incident happened. I was about 14 or 15 I think. We were standing outside the main Sannidhi, waiting for the Arathi. I was wearing a Salwar Kameez with Duppata. In the crowd, someone grabbed my breasts from behind and I felt like I had been electrocuted. I quickly turned around, trembling, but whoever it was had made a quick escape into the jostling crowd. I don’t know the age of the perpetrator but I felt helpless and was too ashamed to share this with anyone. I won’t say that the incident has scarred me or that it has stopped me from going to temples. But even when I think of it now, it feels so wrong.. so very wrong that in your moment of silence, in such a scared and sanctified space, this should happen.

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