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Bystander intervention
City: Restaurant/Bangalore
Was wearing Jeans and Shirt
Reaction: Reacted (yelling, complaining, slapping, fighting back)

Incident was : One time

Perpetrator was a Stranger and aged 20-30

I was out with a group of friends and one of my female friends, Lakshmi received a phone call. She looked very disturbed and asked one of my male friends to say hello to whoever was on the line.  My male friend was pretty non-chalant and Lakshmi looked disappointed with his equivocal response. After he hung up, I inquired the details. Apparently, Lakshmi was being stalked by a stranger for the last two weeks. He used to call her at all odd hours. Threats, playing music on the phone etc. didn’t help. He even knew all her whereabouts. I got terribly angry to hear this from her and to my luck, he called again. This time, I lifted the call. However he cut the call on hearing my sound. Then I called him back. This time he spoke to me. I then shouted at him. He at first tried to joke with me and when I told him I will call the police,  he was shocked.  He exclaimed ‘you will call police!’, and then he told me it was wrong number and cut the call.  I knew he was clearly afraid when I spoke about police.   I was boiling with rage and advised Lakshmi to take it very seriously. At that time, this male friend of mine and a couple of others made comments about me being “paranoid” and “lecturing too much.” I remember everyone in the restaurant looking at me strangely. But later I was happy to know that the guy never called Lakshmi again.

So yes, strong reactions are needed even to curb small things. A woman shouldn’t be violated in any way.378885_10150564869241240_3653392_n